Tuesday, March 4, 2008
An article to share : - from TODAY newspaper by Choong Yoke LengFor females to inflate , for males to reflect. lol.THE (SAD) TRUTH ABOUT MENWE come across men who say things like : 'A man can still have extramarital affairs even though he is happily married' or 'it is not natural for men to be monogamous'.
A woman can never understand. Why would a man want to seek another woman if he is 'happily married'?
My male friends replied: 'It is the testosterone' and 'Men are highly sexed.'
These answers are not very enlightening, so i meditated on it and here's what i think:
a) Men must be the centre of attention.
Not long ago, i saw in the newspapers a picture of a woman with her smiling husband at her side, her newly-published cookbook in one hand. She said: ''Show your husband your love by giving him home-cooked food."
I asked my husband: "Do you want me to stay in the kitchen the whole day preparing your food?' he shot back: 'and smell of onion, garlic and dried fish?'
A woman thinks that if her husband comes back from work and finds her tired and sweaty, having prepared dinner, fed the children and tidied the house, he will say 'Ah, my poor wife! she works so hard and is so selfless, how i love her!'
More likely, he will think: ' I work all day to bring home the bacon and what do i get? A smelly and dishevelled wife who ignores me! She is only interested in the kids and the house' - as if 'the kids' and 'the house' are not his too!
When a woman grows up, she matures from a child needing attention into a mother ready to suppress her own discomfort to attend to another. A man, on the other hand, does not mature- he still needs as much attention, if not more.
b) Men must be made to feel important.
A woman sometimes does not understand how egoistcal a man can be.
A few years ago, my twin sisters' sister-in-law and her husband came from Taiwan to stay with my husband and I in Penang. As i drove them around, the sister-in-law kept telling me to let her husband drive 'because he is very good with cars'.
But, i thought to myself: i was doing fine, and i know my car and Penang's streets better,right?
I realised too late- when he became curt to me and abrasive to the female sale assistants- that he's felt humiliated being driven around by a woman. A man's ego is as fragile as a porcelain.
While a woman looks upon her home as a place of stability and rootedness, a man looks upon it as another arena where he can be important, the boss. Thus, a man expects his wife to be submissive and 'the wind beneath his wings'. It will not do if she overshadows him- he will become resentful and need another outlet for his hurt ego.
c) Men cannot tell the difference between 'love' and 'sex'.
Once, a 60-something-year-old Englishman walked into my shop to buy Viagra. He told me: 'I come to South-east Asia every year to look doe love because my wife does not love me anymore. We have not had sex for a long time. She has a prolapsed uterus and the doctor said she could just have a ring put in to correct the situation, but she refues to do anything about it!"
A prolapsed uterus is a condition in which the uterus sags into the vagina. It is often due to a difficult childbirth or multiple childbirths. But he looked so sorry for himself. My heart went out to his wife- she had his love only as long as she could satisfy him sexually.
So, fathers and mothers, if you want your daughters to get married and stay happily married, stop teaching them how to cook and sew- send them instead to the geishas and the social escorts to learn how to please a man.
d) Men want to feel that they are capable providers.
A smiling and happy wife assauges his ego, while a complaining wife hurts it. Thus, never complain about anyone (Especially his friends and mother) or anything to him. And the surest way to drive him away is to start complaining about him!
e) Men view their wives as trophies.
A lot of women make the mistake of thinking that since their role is to help their husbands shine, they can be slothful about their own mental and physical development.
But to a man, a wife- like his cars, houses and titles- is a symbol of his success and abilities. Thus, it will not do if she grows older, while her husband with his growing wealth becomes more desirable.
We cannot depend on a man's conscience or reminders of what you have done for him in the past to keep him faithful. A man, with both his ego and his lust, cannot be expected to do the right thing.
It is left to the woman, as the stronger sex, to suppress her needs and make the necessary sacrifices to keep her husband content with her.
End of story.
Let me clarify things a little. Just found this old article and found it really interesting, so decided to share. lol. anyway it's pretty entertaining too isn't it?
LOL. my fingers are TIRED. gtg! it's going to be 6 soon. YAY!
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